Comments on: My fall from desirability http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/ Just another WordPress.com weblog Wed, 13 May 2009 23:33:16 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: leo http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-24 leo Sat, 03 May 2008 17:44:02 +0000 http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-24 Don't blame the ministry... It's your attitude on the web! I've just read a bunch of your blog entries and comments on other people's sites and it just SOUNDS LIKE you are synical, defensive, self-obsorbed and arrogant. I'm sure you have many great charactors also and really want to be a good person, but by your writings, you are shetting a terrible light on yourself. You might have an urge to bring to awareness the "other point of view" on many of the subjects that faces the Chrisian community, but because you approach them from such negative angle all the time, after a while, people just don't take your words seriously anymore. People just write you off as a jerk. I'm sure you have much to contribute. But there are better ways to phrase your ideas. Don’t blame the ministry… It’s your attitude on the web! I’ve just read a bunch of your blog entries and comments on other people’s sites and it just SOUNDS LIKE you are synical, defensive, self-obsorbed and arrogant. I’m sure you have many great charactors also and really want to be a good person, but by your writings, you are shetting a terrible light on yourself. You might have an urge to bring to awareness the “other point of view” on many of the subjects that faces the Chrisian community, but because you approach them from such negative angle all the time, after a while, people just don’t take your words seriously anymore. People just write you off as a jerk. I’m sure you have much to contribute. But there are better ways to phrase your ideas.

]]> By: Chad McIntosh http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-18 Chad McIntosh Fri, 02 May 2008 07:02:21 +0000 http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-18 Hrmmmm...This explains a lot. Hrmmmm…This explains a lot.

]]> By: Linda http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-6 Linda Wed, 13 Feb 2008 18:37:39 +0000 http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-6 Cuttingtruth - There's a lot of baggage that comes from the superficial Christianity we've come to know about in Asian American churches. I grew up in one. Have you met sisters who would die for Jesus? I have. Your knowledge about this is as wide as the circle of people you focus on and the experiences you have. What are the values of these girls who were all over you anyways? Are they committed to looking for a godly man? Probably not. They were attracted to you initially but what do they think of you after getting to know you better, I don't know. If they were attracted to you for your image, why would you continue to want that? Even sisters who say they want a man with a heart for Jesus may also wants good looks or other superficial qualities to go with that heart. There's nothing wrong with that. We weigh all qualities. If you dig, we'll reveal that looks or money are important too. They may not be #1 but maybe further down the list of priorities. It's a delicate balance of what we look for. But you're right, check our who we choose and that should reveal what our hearts desire (if we're not settling). The godly sisters who are looking for godly men are not winking at you or make moves on you. They have a quieter spirit who are praying about their mate and getting to know their brothers. Cuttingtruth – There’s a lot of baggage that comes from the superficial Christianity we’ve come to know about in Asian American churches. I grew up in one. Have you met sisters who would die for Jesus? I have. Your knowledge about this is as wide as the circle of people you focus on and the experiences you have. What are the values of these girls who were all over you anyways? Are they committed to looking for a godly man? Probably not. They were attracted to you initially but what do they think of you after getting to know you better, I don’t know.
If they were attracted to you for your image, why would you continue to want that?

Even sisters who say they want a man with a heart for Jesus may also wants good looks or other superficial qualities to go with that heart. There’s nothing wrong with that. We weigh all qualities. If you dig, we’ll reveal that looks or money are important too. They may not be #1 but maybe further down the list of priorities. It’s a delicate balance of what we look for. But you’re right, check our who we choose and that should reveal what our hearts desire (if we’re not settling).

The godly sisters who are looking for godly men are not winking at you or make moves on you. They have a quieter spirit who are praying about their mate and getting to know their brothers.

]]> By: collisive http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-5 collisive Wed, 30 Jan 2008 06:44:06 +0000 http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-5 I don't think it's just the $$ most women are looking for, but rather the comfort & protection that we crave from any man. From personal experience, I know of a plethora of women who dig men in ministry -- usually, these are women who share similar callings and who are probably better suited for said single men. I don’t think it’s just the $$ most women are looking for, but rather the comfort & protection that we crave from any man. From personal experience, I know of a plethora of women who dig men in ministry — usually, these are women who share similar callings and who are probably better suited for said single men.

]]> By: Hmm... http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-4 Hmm... Wed, 30 Jan 2008 05:43:07 +0000 http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-4 I am a brother and the sisters I know are God-loving and radical, unlike the "sistas" you mentioned in your article. Give them more credit and let's not forgot how judgmental we are. Maybe we need to take out the plank in our eye before we try to take the speck out of theirs. Men are one of the reasons why girls are so insecure about physical image...The "sista" who responded before me, she needs prayer. I am a brother and the sisters I know are God-loving and radical, unlike the “sistas” you mentioned in your article. Give them more credit and let’s not forgot how judgmental we are. Maybe we need to take out the plank in our eye before we try to take the speck out of theirs. Men are one of the reasons why girls are so insecure about physical image…The “sista” who responded before me, she needs prayer.

]]> By: Anonymous http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-3 Anonymous Wed, 30 Jan 2008 05:39:56 +0000 http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-3 Word. Shoot, most of the sisters I know are God-loving and radical! The sister who commented before me, her I am not sure of but the ones I know definitely are! Word. Shoot, most of the sisters I know are God-loving and radical! The sister who commented before me, her I am not sure of but the ones I know definitely are!

]]> By: Anonymous http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-2 Anonymous Wed, 30 Jan 2008 05:20:24 +0000 http://thecuttingtruth.wordpress.com/2008/01/16/my-fall-from-desirability/#comment-2 Give us a little more credit. Thanks, Judgmental and Money-seeking but Being Progressively Sanctified Sista Give us a little more credit.

Thanks,
Judgmental and Money-seeking but Being Progressively Sanctified Sista

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